So I just got a phone call from my son's doctor. He had an appointment this evening that we missed. Why, you may ask, did we miss it?? Because DH made the appointment and did not tell me, did not put it on the google family calendar OR on the white board calendar on the kitchen wall so literally NO ONE knew about it but him and HE is out of town. Now, is it the end of the world? No. But for gods sake--we have tools to use WHY WON'T HE USE THEM. The google calendar--what could be easier??? It is accessible by phone and laptop AND tablet. For a LONG time, DH wouldn't even put it on his phone. Again, WHY?? Why not use the tools available to you?? I put everything on that google calendar BUT I have it color coded so I can see my stuff, the kids stuff and my work stuff but only the kids stuff shows up on the family calendar. Even without ADHD, that would be a lot to wade through to find the activities that directly involve you. I keep the three calendars for myself on the same calendar but color coded. All DH has to do is refer to and very very occasionally add something to the family calendar. What is hard about that?? As I type this I am thinking about that shame blog post that Melissa wrote, how if we call out the ADHD person for forgetting something they only get defensive and they feel shamed. So what, I say nothing? I ask why he did not put it on the calendar and he got defensive and just say, okay--I forgot--my fault. That's it. It really bugs me and he thinks it's not that big of a deal.
So stupid. Why not use the tools you have available to you????