Another lovely day in the neighborhood...NOT

So my DH decided to not go to class today because he was too tired, but he was online about 20 minutes after I left the house....yeah he was reallllll tired.  More like he wanted to be on Facebook or talking to his gf more than he wants to pass school.  Not to mention he started an on campus group for the radio and he hasn't shown up for the last two meetings they had (yeah hes the president of the group) because they wont do things his way and hes not seeing this work out the way he wanted.  Or he is having one of the whores from one of the sex dating sites hes on coming over.  Who knows anymore...... 

Right now we are fighting via email (I'm at work) because he broke his tooth and we have no dental insurance.   He has decided

  • Its my fault we don't have insurance because I switched jobs.
  • Its my fault he cant get the state to pay for his dental work cause we are married and they consider our combined assets which causes us to have to pay $700 before the state will pay anything....funny seeing I only have the house in my name and the truck and 401K (which is the real problem) are his.  He has decided this is one more reason he doesn't want to be married anymore because there are nothing but "disadvantages" to being married.
  • He doesn't see us together in 5 years anyway because we have to many problems so why keep trying.

 

Yep my day is just going peachy!  I cant wait to get home bitching and fighting and hearing how I have trapped him and made him get married and how much he hates it.  I freakin GIVE UP!!!!!!  I just want to crawl in a hole and never come out!!!!!

Then dont go home!

It's probably too late now but........

Is there anywhere else you can go?

This sounds to me, like he just want's to draw you in to his dark and gloomy world. He is spoiling for a fight to satisfy some need within himself.

Go somewhere else, if you can. Give him a run for his money.

Always

He's always looking for a fight.  And then when I call him on picking fights he tells me I'm too sensitive and he was just joking.  I didn't even go into work today because I didn't want to have to be in the same vehicle as him...and I just wanted peace and quiet.

Not sure if it works like

Not sure if it works like this where you're at, but I know that in Texas (and Arizona) it wouldn't matter if you two are legally married or not.  It's household income.  Meaning that if you two lived with either parents, their income would be considered as well.  My DH and I aren't legally married (every part of the marriage exists except for the tangible contract), and when I was pregnant we searched for a loophole to get state assistance.  You say he has 401K, can he not borrow from that?  I know it's not exactly the best thing, to borrow from your retirement, but if he honestly doesn't see being married to you in 5 years.... then it shouldn't effect you.  But suggesting HE borrow from HIS retirement puts the ball in his court.  If he chooses not to do that, that's fine...it's his choice to make and he is responsible for his own choices whether he acknowledges that or not. 

I'm actually having a very very similar situation, just reversed.  I've been waiting to be able to get a crown for a root canal I had done over a year ago.  Insurance does no good because we haven't met the deductible which is the exact cost of the crown.  The temporary filling is coming loose and it's only a matter of time before it falls out.  When I brought this up to him again (he places blame on me for not reminding him enough, so I make sure to do this about every month or so), he told me that I 'opted out' of completing the dental work.  He can't tell me when I did this or what we were discussing when I decided that having a tooth visibly missing was something I was OK with.  I'm thinking I should start caring around a recorder, but I'm sure he'd find a way to discredit that as well.