Are ADDers capable of empathy?

My husband is always complaining that I don't cook.  My children are grown and I spend a lot of time after work at the gym because I prefer not to be around him in the evenings.  Sunday night I came home after a hard workout and made a big pot of soup.  To make a long story short, he walked in, looked at the soup and told me he was going to my mother's for leftovers.  I actually had the expectation that he would be pleased that I took the time to make homemade soup, and that he would actually want to eat it!  I was stunned.  I explained that I made the soup for him because he said that I never cook.  His reply was that I made it for myself and that he might eat some later if I didn't put it all in the freezer.  He knew I was furious but he calmly walked out to his truck and left.  The last time I let me anger show, he started throwing things, so I had to take a Xanax to calm down.  I really don't like the man anymore.  I don't want to be around him.  And after this, I won't make any efforts to do anything special for him.  At this point, I just try to avoid him.  He is negative and mean and I'm emotionally finished with him.  I actually love my cats more.  I hope he never really needs anything from me because I'm not sure I could be there for him.