Are you the yes person or the no person in your relationship?

The following was part of today's Weekly Marriage Tips email, from ADHD & Marriage:

"I remember my own years of saying ‘no.’  I felt confined.  I felt like the ‘bad guy’ in the family.  My kids even joked about ‘mean mom coming out of the glove compartment’ one day in the car when I was particularly cranky.

You don’t have to say ‘yes’ all the time, as Rhimes did for her book experiment.  But what would happen if you said ‘yes’ 50% more?

And, no, I’m not talking about saying yes to anything that puts you or your family in danger, or that will ruin you financially.  I’m not suggesting you become stupid…only more open to the possibilities that life sends your way.

Here’s what I discovered when I started to say ‘yes’ much more often.  ‘No’ was getting in my way.  ‘No’ took away my power.  ‘No’ kept me isolated.

I dare you – try it!"

I didn't keep count, but I'm pretty sure I said "yes" more than my ex-husband did.  Why is it assumed that the non-ADHD partners are the buzz killers?