Submitted by Mind Shattered on 03/15/2014.
After coming to the point of almost being totally mentally shot. I finally found this site started reading everything on it. Ordered the book and am reading it. Thank God! Today when my ADHD (hugely hyper & unpredictable) husband were shopping and I was talking to him about what we should get, turned around to realize I was talking to myself because he was nowhere to be seen, I could say to myself "it's the ADHD". Instead of feeling disrespected and angry. I chose what I WANTED and continued shopping. My anger has been all consuming, and today I didn't have to get mad. It's so freeing, to say to myself, "this is my boundry, if you disappear constantly, I'm not looking all over the store for you, to ask for your input, I'm going to continue shopping and I'll choose things without you." and be able to say that to myself in a calm sane, not nasty way. It doesnt sound like much, but it was a first huge step for me. And I saw a tiny pinpoint of light, looking up out of that ugly black hole I've been living in.
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Submitted by Tired-to-my-bones on
Hello Mind Shattered
I noticed that you hadn't had a reply to your post and it's been a long time. I would like to say a big fat all encompassing WELL DONE to you. Recognising that we have a choice in all our actions can be a total revelation to those of us who live with the unreliability of ADHD behaviour. Especially if it has already eaten away at our sense of self as we stare into the abyss of utter despair. You handled this situation so perfectly. You remained calm. You didn't fall into the trap of pursuing your OH. You stayed clear and focused. You put yourself first. If he wanted to join you, great. If he didn't, tough. You are strong. Keep going.