This is not about ADHD or ADD. But I am trying to figure out what is wrong in my life by journaling here. Lauren's post made me start thinking about this topic.
I was attracted to bad boys. A number of them. They are always "cute" and not boring in some ways, even if it is just their over-confident smiles and flirty ways. They are fun and impulsive and made us laugh. Sometimes these bad boys have nice cars and muscles and a devil may care attitude that, to a young woman, seems to be the guy of her dreams.
These bad boys (and some feisty, sexy girls) lose their luster as we age in a relationship. As we mature in experience with commitment and family and growing together, the "looks" and personality of a person does not work like it did when we were dating and going to parties. At this age, I am very leery of men and women who are TOO personable and confident, showy and loud - the drama queens and the showboat--- those people who are or try to be popular with their personality.
As a mature woman, I do not trust the peacocks or the monkeys. I STRONGLY choose the loyal dog who at the end, you realize has been your best friend and always greeted you with exuberance and was a constant, consistent, devoted pal. Cuteness does not last.
Google: What makes a bad boy. Why are the bad boys and bad girls more alluring to us? There is quite a bit of information. It seems THIS is more of my problem with H than his ADD.
Who we are is not our talents, abilities and thoughts. We ARE the choices we make. I was living in a world created by romance novels, rock music and religion, trying to MAKE something work that was not working. I had chosen to pretend my way into a life that I thought I could sustain. It's not working for me, Phil.
Eyes wide open.
The more psychopathic or narcissistic you are, the better you are at conning people into thinking you’re actually a good person. The Good Men Project