Cheetarah: You asked me if it is hopeless. Nothing is hopeless if you are willing to do everything in your power to understand and treat your ADD or ADHD. There are many counselors available who are trained to work with you, seek them out. Your life lies in your hands - no one else is responsible for your happiness. If you truly want to have successful relationships you WILL find a way. The first step is acknowledging that you have this affliction (which you already have)and then be patient with yourself because you didn't get this way over night. If you are with someone now - be right up front with her. Tell her what is going on - express to her that you are truly working hard to make this relationship work and then show her. You deserve to feel love and be loved. My husband didn't even get to step one and wasn't interested so I had nothing to work with. You sound as though you really want to try and get this under control and YOU CAN, but know this - it will be constant work on your part. But anything that is worth having is worth working for. As I mentioned before I have a son with OCD and Tourette's and it took an enormous amount of patience to raise him but he was and is worth every moment of patience. He is an amazing individual as I am sure you are as well. Do not give up Cheetarah - just work hard. Good Luck to you.