It is because of this site that I was able to realize what has been plaguing my marriage and relationships, ADHD. My wife came upon this site while trying to figure out a way to communicate with me, something we have NEVER had a problem with. She asked me to read through a few posts and I decided to indulge her, thinking to myself, "I'm not hyper, i don't fidget, there are certainly things that I focus on very well..."etc. Even she believed it to only, "have a lot stories that sound just like ours! but I'm not saying I think you have ADD/HD". It took me about 10 minutes of reading (especially the spouses without ADHD who posted) to begin crying and finally, for the first time in 27 years know what was wrong with me. Unfortunately it was the fighting with my wife that made me see everything so clearly. The snapping, not understanding why she was so upset, lying. Things that I never equated with myself, in my mind, I was a calm, easy going, understanding and loving husband. In my wife's mind, I was easily angered, lazy, forgetful, unloving and worst of all I had "changed". I hated hearing that! I knew that I hadn't, I accepted that, yes, we were fighting a lot more than usual, but just chalked it up to her being crazy or it being that time of the month...every week. Anyways, before I continue rambling too much, I just wanted to thank everyone who posts on this site, those with and those without ADHD. I can confidently say that this site saved my marriage and possibly my life. I have been blessed beyond measure with a loving wife who is willing to do ANYTHING to make our marriage a long, happy, and fruitful one. She has been my rock through it all and continues to stand by my side as I RE-find myself. I look forward to joining this community and offering help as I feel fit, but also knowing that I am not alone (as I have felt for most of my life) and that there are people willing to listen and take the time out of their days to respond to and help strangers...it is a very warm feeling. Thank you all!