I have to post quickly and then do my nightly routine of lunches, clutter fun, and school work.
This is going to sound ridiculous: I am a lifelong stomper. By this, I mean that in spite of the fact I am a normal-sized person, I have been known to "walk like a herd of elephants," to quote my mom when I was a teenager. I don't mean I am having an adult tantrum. I mean that for whatever reason the way my foot strikes the ground is loud; it's my gait (no, I am not like Quasimodo).
So...when I am in a hurry, my gait is more pronounced. When I am running around doing lunches, when I have a lot to do during the school year and I am trying to get it done, I get (you might be shocked here, folks)...distracted. The second I lose self-awareness, I start the stomping. I also slam cabinets, apparently. My husband told me today that in spite of the fact he has not yelled (he hasn't; ACTUAL shocker), I have not "changed the behavior." EDIT: HE ONLY MENTIONS THIS BECAUSE HE IS TRYING TO SLEEP.
He is right. I just don't know what to do! Maybe write signs to myself that I hang in the kitchen? What if I forget? Maybe wear my slippers so my gait is softer? He doesn't want me putting any in the cabinet that involves screws (I already tried that thick felt-type material that you stick under chair legs to prevent floor scratches. The cabinets still bounce 3 times when shut quickly.
He thinks I don't care enough to change. NOT TRUE!!! I am trying to correct it, but I need a better strategy! I can't override my stupid working memory with willpower. Were that the case, this would NEVER have been a problem to begin with!
PS I also don't want to inadvertently "train him" that he NEEDS to yell at me...more. He's trying to do it my way, and I want to be able to respect his needs, but my memory doesn't give a rat's ass!