Maybe this thread has already been done, but I have another question in which an ADHD person may be breaking things. Do other ADHD'ers break stuff? My ADHD husband is always breaking things, and has ever since I met him. Most of the time he shrugs it off, but it has cost us an unbelievable amount of money in replacing items that he breaks. You NAME IT, he's broken it. Every time we get an item where there is some "assembly required", the item gets put together backwards or upsidedown, or gets broken completely, but, if someone ELSE breaks something, he goes ballistic. He gives himself SO MUCH ROOM for creating awkward situations, or breaking things, and we get very little to no leeway. I don't understand this.
There are many undone projects in the house that are results of him breaking items in the house. (2 sets of collapsing doors) (the ceiling in the kitchen and dining room where the heating cooling system flooded the attic)( a big hole in the family room upstairs where he cut a hole into the attic and promised me he would put a door there - that was 8 months ago...and no door, just boards across the big hole) (the ENTIRE garage full of his stuff and now the cars can't get in) (a botched patio he made in the back yard which is a mess now and has to be totally redone) (the pack porch which is half done from the FIRST time he tried to redo it and broke things in the room)(the broken hot tub from him trying to "winterize" the pipes underneath and broke the whole thing)
There are chores that need to be done around the house, but the chain saw is broken, as well as the weed eater, the pressure washer, and a host of other small appliances.( and that's just currently) It was much worse years ago, when almost everything he touched ended up being broken, and if I said anything, he got angry immediately. One summer he went through 3 lawn mowers because he kept breaking them. Then he would go out and buy another one claiming that the LAST ONE was just "junk". NONE of them were junk.........he just was too rough on the machines, and never cleaned them after mowing the lawn or would run over rocks and stuff which would break the blades or the belts. We spent over 4,000 that summer on lawn mowers. There is a very good lawn mower that has been sitting in the yard for over 8 years now, but he won't let me get rid of it because he's "going to get it to someone who knows how to fix lawn mowers". But, it's been out in the elements for 8 YEARS NOW, so I doubt if the thing is any reasonable working condition. (this too cost several hundred dollars) The riding lawn mower we have is quickly going down the tubes, and he won't let ANYONE use it but him. I CAN'T STAND IT. Why be SO STUBBORN about letting others use things when HE is the one who breaks everything? I just don't get it. Can anyone answer this?
YES! I have that problem
Submitted by MFrances on
YES! I have that problem too. Sometimes I think he just has bad luck. When you talked about the assembly required things, I just gasped! He cannot put together that stuff to save his life, the nail doesn't go in straight and sticks out the side, or something. It's awful. I put those things together by myself now. His tools are always breaking or not working or needs to be worked on or whatever. A small project turns into a big one. I think he just rushes too much to get something done, doesn't take his time, doesn't read instructions. Plus he does not take care of things the way he should. We have a pool and I can't tell you how many winter covers we have bought over the years because they get dry rotted because he doesn't store it properly. Or how many tools or paint brushes, etc we have to keep buying because he doesn't put them away and then can't find them the next time he needs them. It's part of not completing a job. he does not think that cleaning up and putting the tools away is part of the job.
I don't think my husband
Submitted by PoisonIvy on
I don't think my husband breaks things more often than other people do, but he tends to not throw things away even if they are broken. I think it's a combination of hoarding behavior and his interest in fixing things. Hey, I'm all for fixing things, but I also think it's appropriate to do an inventory periodically and if you realize that, for example, you've had that broken lawnmower for five years, it's OK to get rid of it because you're probably never going to get around to working on it. My husband has huge amounts of old computer parts in the basement. I can barely stand to go down there because of all the stuff.
Yes, all the time
Submitted by wmd666 on
Yes, all the time. It's actually gone beyond a joke. But she avoids telling me she's broke something and just waits for me to find the broken item. Sometimes, evens claims she didn't break the item.