Are the meds just for making the adhd slow down so that they can concentrate better and remember stuff? Or do they in any way help with the other huge problem area (at least for our marriage), the coldness and the lack of empathy? I would obviously be happy if my hubby suddenly became more responsible and I would have to help him less. I just don't think that would save our marriage. He is so cold and feels no remorse over his lack of compassion and loving. He is really unfair, loading his life on my shoulders and not giving anything back. If I dare to complain or cry, he hates me even more. These are the things that I will not live with anymore. Please tell me there is a pill that makes the emotional cruelty lessen.