My husband has a hard time asking for help. I don't know if he is afraid to ask for help, very proud of his unwillingness to do so, or both.
I'm frustrated by this, because it has contributed, I think, to the imbalance in our relationship. Despite the fact that my husband claims to have no needs and despite the fact that he rarely asks for help, I do most of the work around the house and I often anticipate his needs and those of other family members and do things without being asked. I am willing to ask for help, and it seems that this pegs me as "needy." My husband often does not help me with things I ask for help with; do you think this is why he doesn't want to ask me, because he thinks he'll get the same response from me (refusal, inability) as I get from him?
So, I'm working on changing this pattern of behavior. I will still ask for help if I need it, but I will not do things for my husband unless he asks for help. First test is coming up rapidly; he's out of town and due at the airport, in a city about 90 minutes away, tomorrow evening. I've asked him a couple times to let me know how he will be getting home from the airport. I've said that if he wants a ride from me, he needs to ask.