Cheesecake, safety, and sticking my nose where it doesn't belong

My husband, adult son, and 13 year old nephew were working on scrapping out a vehicle.  I looked out the window and saw a potentially dangerous situation.  I went out and voiced my concern to my ADHD spouse.  I am such-a-trained-chimp when it comes to being very cautious how I approach concerns -walking on egg-shells - making sure to use I statements so as not to come across as attacking.  All that communication effort was in vain - the situation turned ugly.  I was told I had no business sticking my nose where it didn't belong.  He doesn't come in and tell me how to make cheesecake, so I had no business telling him what to do.  I am still in shock over the results of this encounter.  What's a person to do in these situations?  I think it is out of line to compare baking to a dangerous situation.  Sigh.