I did not want to write this forum but I need help! every one is well aware of me by now since I posted like 5 to 6 forums for the past few days, I can't even remember I have lost count.I hope that every one can understand how hard this is for me and, I am a very strong/weak person at this point in my marriage.I am from the Caribbean and the help here in the Caribbean is not so advanced with their treatment in ADDer's.I left my husband a few days now with the hyper ness in me never to return,I am having second thoughts.Why? I am not sure,all I know and feel right now is that he needs my help.In his past relationships,which really does not concern me, but, plays a role in my future with him,having found out the pattern and follow up of what was NEVER their fault for leaving and regardless to who it was in the failures of his past relationship's,I am thinking of why none of them tried to help him?He is like 47 now, 16 year's older than me, and this late down in his life he NEVER was treated NEVER was DIAGNOSED properly and he lived where all the treatment was almost free! I did somehow managed to find a doctor who specializes in ADHD patients ,and I did how even spoke to him about it yesterday,he got so defensive,and did tell me he's not going to no mental doctor!Okay I knew he would calm down after 6 hour's cause that's how long it take's him.Any how, I proceed to be persistent and got him last night again on the phone,but this time, I finally got him to agree to go see a doctor.I made the appointment and he have alot going on in work for him right now,and seems like his brain's can't multi task at all ,and I am always forgetting the off balance in him, told him I made the appointment and he declined! AGAIN! Saying that he have too many things going on at work,he can't think,he said he can't focus on that right now.I know he has a off balance in the brain's function and today I realized that if I don't stick with the plan in hand he would continue to procrastinate.I am well aware of what this could do to me but, the strong part in me could handle it,and the weak part in me how ever want's to stick it out with him no matter what it takes.My loving kindness gets me in trouble sometimes and it's not like I want to do this because of any other reasons other than, I love him to death,and my heart is as big as the ocean.But loving him to death is not what's keeping me from having second thoughts,it's the big heart I have with it.Foolish me! weather it works out with him or not I still want to help him I care alot.