I would like to know if any of your ADHD partners display thoughts and emotions which are disproportionate to reality? This includes paranoid or conspiratorial thought processes, mistrust of Government or people or employers?
My husband was diagnosed about 18 months ago but since starting medication (Vyvanse) appears to have deteriorated in relation to the above. He has always disliked the Government and has never had much respect for authority in general, but he now seems to get transfixed on certain things and I am starting to think there is something more, and perhaps more serious, going on. He feels things so intensely and his emotional outbursts (always bad) seem to be even more elevated and I am starting to feel a bit unsafe given some things he is starting to say.
I'd be interested to hear about others' experiences on this Forum? I have been contemplating speaking to his treating psychiatrist as something is feeling very "off" to me.
Thank you.
Trust your gut
Submitted by 1Melody1 on
My ADHD husband definitely exhibited a bit of this. Government mistrust and general raging against basic societal norms like working for a living. However, for the most part it was a mildly aggravating trait vs. something that felt unsafe or like part of another disorder. I think what you describe is much more intense and if your gut is telling you there is something more, I would trust that you know what you're seeing.
Thank you for your insights;
Submitted by Exhausting on
Thank you for your insights; you are right, my gut is never far wrong.
Hyper focus....
Submitted by c ur self on
What I have experienced is what ever my spouse is hyper focused on, is all consuming...Thankfully most of the things she does this with (people, places, things) isn't unsafe or psychotic in nature....I can see where over thought at unsafe levels can be dangerous...Especially where fear or mistrust is involved, and it can cause mental instability...I think you are right to follow up....
c
It is definitely hyperfocus .
Submitted by Exhausting on
It is definitely hyperfocus .. seems to come in waves. At the moment we have a calm household but I fear it's the calm before the storm .. again. Thanks for your insights and advice.
Waves never stop (in nature
Submitted by Non-ADHD-Hubby on
Waves never stop (in nature and in an ADHD household). Just count on it happening again and it won't be so exhausting lol!
For real though if you can come to terms with acknowledging that ADHD is there for good (there is no cure), along with the mutual practicing of managing the ADHD symptoms, things will improve. Key is you BOTH have to want to sincerely improve things.
You will find yourself "having to put up with" conspiracy theories, anger (in your partner and yourself), less and less. There will be setbacks but nothing worthwhile comes easy.
love the wave analogy...
Submitted by c ur self on
I think that analogy (the ocean's surface) works for all human's....Some can just go from gently rolling waves to a crashing storm surge quickly!!! lol...
c
Thanks to the poster that
Submitted by Dontfeellikeapadman on
Thanks to the poster that said trust your guts and you know what you're seeing. My hubby is obsessed with all of it. yeah i get some of it but like still to this day listening to doom and gloom podcasts daily and whatever else. I am sure it plays on his mental state of mind but not according to him.
Overboard
Submitted by Pelican11 on
Wow, for sure my experience is that people with ADHD can hyperfocus, but this does feel a bit extreme. I would for sure speak with his treating psychiatrist, something does seem off, especially if you are feeling unsafe. That is not okay....
Thank you. Generally a
Submitted by Exhausting on
Thank you. Generally a psychiatrist won't speak to a spouse or significant other without the consent of the patient so I probably won't be in a position to do this without my husband's knowledge which will not achieve anything.