Ive posted on this board a few times and I have read a lot of the posts therein and they have really helped me to get a better understanding of the issues ADHD causes in relationships...
I have a quick question, I think it deals more with me rather then my ADHD spouse.
I am a very introverted person, and a very analytical person; I also work in a high stress atmosphere, I plan out my days to the hour and I really dont like any unexpected surprises. (my spouse is the complete opposite of me.)
My issue is this. She always is talking. From the moment she wakes up to the moment she goes to sleep. I dont have any issue with people talking to me, but the majority of the things she talks about is totally random topics that dont really matter. I have no problem talking about random stuff, but there are limits. Example being, a five minute conversation on the house next to ours being sold, fine but when that turns in to a hour long talk about the current real estate market, followed by looking at houses for an hour on the computer, and showing me each one is a little bit much. Were not even looking to buy a house!
I want to be interested in the things she is interested in, its just, total overkill and it makes me shutdown and not want to talk at all; it also drains me mentally. Ive noticed it does affect our intimacy as well as by the end of the night I just want to go to sleep and hear quite.
I dont know how to fix that.