My husband was diagnosed with ADHD several years ago and has been on and off Ritalin, usually taking it only when he needs to focus on something important like a work deadline. It has taken its toll on our marriage and we separated 6 months ago after 26 years. I have been in therapy for the last 9 months dealing with my issues that have contributed to our problems and trying to reach a decision about staying or leaving the marriage. Recently my therapist suggested that I should be evaluated for ADHD myself. I was thoroughly surprised, but as I've done some reading, I think she's right. I have an appointment in a couple of weeks with a psychiatrist (actually, the same one who has seen my husband).
My question is, is anyone here in, or has in the past been in, a marriage or LTR in which both partners have ADHD? Were you able to work it out and save the marriage? What sort of issues have you found that are unique to the situation, as opposed to a relationship in which only one person has ADHD? I appreciate any comments any of you have to offer.