I have been struggling in my 10 year marriage with a partner who is likely ADHD [I pretty much "knew' that when we got together from my Special Ed teaching background]
but he does not accept that there may be a need for assessment and strategies.
I've come to the conclusion that the only one I can change is me and my actions/ reactions so today I wrote myself a daily prayer for "Transformation and Self Growth."
I have printed it out and will put it on my mirror and say it daily! I hope this might also show my partner that I am willing to work on things from my side that have contributed to where we find ourselves now.
Su’s Daily Prayer for Transformation and Self Growth
God grant me the serenity to accept the people I cannot change, the courage to change the one I can,
the wisdom to know it’s me and the grace to embrace a new way of being.
Please help me to release what no longer serves me or my relationships:
sadness, hopelessness, despair, pessimism
frustration, resentment, irritation, sarcasm, unkindness, anger, bitterness
nagging, giving unnecessary reminders
the need to be right, to “parent my partner”
the need to control the situation
the need to have things done “my way”
Please also help me to focus on being and becoming the best version of myself:
happy, hopeful, joyful, optimistic, enthusiastic
caring, kind, considerate, respectful, empathetic, loving and full of grace
a skilled and active listener who does not interrupt and who does not tell “too long a story” when sharing
slim, strong, flexible, fit