I don't know if I'm asking for tips or just venting. My husband and I live apart these days but it seems that I keep finding things that are evidence of his disorderly approach to life. The latest was my discovery in the basement today: a futon (that I knew was there), the surface of which contained a large area of mold or mildew (that I hadn't known was there). The basement mess and junk, none of which is mine, bother me so much that I almost start to hyperventilate when I go down there. But I've been trying to deal with the "stuff" and so I went down there today with the goal of putting some things into storage bins. It was very distressing to me to find even more things in our house that are in bad shape because of my husband's neglect. Blah.
Dealing with Junk
Submitted by PoisonIvy on 04/17/2014.
Follow up on the junk
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When I mentioned the moldy futon to my husband and said that I wasn't sure what to do (mainly because I don't know how widespread the mold problem is), he got very huffy. He implied that I was overreacting by being upset about it (he said he knew about it already, "the basement has always had humidity problems," I could just toss out the futon, but if I really wanted to I could spend lots of money on it (last comment dripping with sarcasm)). I'm upset both by his factual misstatements and by the hostility he expressed. Instead of hauling out the futon himself, which he could have done, he left it for me, and I'm much less strong than he is; I do have to pay to have it picked up; and apparently he's fine with me living in a house that he has soiled. I feel like something that got stuck to his shoe.