My husband of 26 years was recently diagnosed with ADHD. My threat of divorce finally moved him to seek help for his many issues. And, although we now have a "label" for his behavior, the diagnosis does nothing to alleviate the many years of anger and resentment that have accumulated in my heart towards him.
I love my husband, but I don't know what to do with the anger he has elicited. And that is difficult to deal with.
I'm sure other ADHD spouses have confronted the same issue and wonder how they overcame this gigatic marital hurdle.