Dealing with our own thinking & emotions....

What is the most difficult part (or what seems to inflict the most long term negative impact on your mindset and emotions) of your lives, when it comes to the effects on you, in seeking to live in a peaceful way w/ your spouse?? 

For me it's (hands down) the emotional and psychological effects I experience on my person, from her denial...Denial always produces the same attributes in a mind...No ownership of actions, self-justification and blame....

Denial completely destroys the ability to communicate and have a healthy marriage relationship....That is what acceptance and setting boundaries helps with....But, what we have w/ boundaries and denial can still be a pins and needles life style, one where we must stay at a continuous heightened awareness level (thought dominating) during times of interaction....You will always have to live mechanical w/ a victim, whose only motivation for ownership and accountability is guilt....Denial is a free ticket to live w/ out discipline or convictions....

What about you? What most challenges you the most mentally and emotionally, when it comes to living a loving and peaceful life, along side of your spouse??

C