Dealing with Stress and Conflict


Any advice.  I am married to an undiagnosed severe ADHD man.  Our relationship is very volatile.  He does not hit me thank God, but we argue so much.  When we get along its great but when we dont, look out, I feel so mad at him like I hate him.  That scares me because I've never been in such an emotional type relationship before.  Also, the stress of being married to this man is constant, between the mess, and taking care of most of the responsibilities, and working...Iv'e been wanting to quit smoking, usually I can when I was single, but being married to him, i dont know if i will ever be able to quit.  How do you deal with stress when ur spouse seems to make u stressed whenever hes around just because of his symptoms?