I haven't posted in some time. For a short review, my (now ex) DH is ADHD. We were married for 29 years. He left 5 months after the sudden death of my mother. I tried to get him to work on our marriage, he just didn't want to. He filed for divorce last October. It became final today. Our 16 year old son is living with me in our home, which I get to keep. I have mixed emotions. I'm sad about the marriage ending because at some point he was my best friend and the husband I loved. I'm also relieved and a bit excited about what my future will be. I have been on my own since July 2014 and I have to say, I enjoy it. There's not as much money coming in, but there's not as much going out, either. There's a peace I didn't have before.
I am in no way advocating for divorce. If my ex-husband would have been willing to fight for us, I would have been right there with him. He chose not to. I hope those of you who are still in marriages with ADHD spouses find a way to make it work. The best to you all.