Our kids avoid their dad as much as they can. H knows this and blames me.
Our kids have repeatedly told him, "our opinions about you are based on what we've witnessed and experienced". But H won't accept that. He wants to believe that I "turned the kids against him."
The kids can rattle off dozens and dozens of stories where their dad behaved horribly, embarrassed them, or was cruel to me. But, H won't accept that.
He still blames me.
At one point, our kids wrote H's therapist a long letter detailing why THEY dislike him. The T told H to stop yelling so much, particularly at his kids. Still, that did no good.