Do your children dislike being around their ADHD parent?

Our kids avoid their dad as much as they can.  H knows this and blames me.  


Our kids have repeatedly told him, "our opinions about you are based on what we've witnessed and experienced".   But H won't accept that.  He wants to believe that I "turned the kids against him."   


The kids can rattle off dozens and dozens of stories where their dad behaved horribly, embarrassed them, or was cruel to me.   But, H won't accept that.  


He still blames me.


At one point, our kids wrote H's therapist a long letter detailing why THEY dislike him.  The T told H to stop yelling so much, particularly at his kids.   Still, that did no good.