So both my wife and I have ADHD.
It's never really been a problem. She became an ER physician (Spend 5 minutes with each patient, high intense) and I'm in IT (Multiple things happening at once and also intense)
She was an only child (center of attention), I was an abused child (never given attention).
I'm an extrovert and she's an introvert
I'm good in numbers, she's good in words and concepts.
When people describe us, they universally use two descriptions.
We are opposites and she is very pretty (yeah, I think it's funny also)
We balance each other. Except when we don't/
It's been getting harder and harder to just have normal communication. We have to be doing something to get along. Otherwise, we go in opposite directions.
I joke that my biggest fear is that we be in a burning building with two exits. Because we will burn to death fighting over which exit to go out of.
So there are plenty of books on dealing with an ADHD spouse. Is there anything to help when Both are ADHD?
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Acceptance :)...Because ADHD minds are impacted differently (Sliding scale 1-10) you know you are both impacted in different ways, on different levels....You have mentioned the one thing that really makes life difficult....Lack of communication....Getting to the bottom of our difficulties can feel hopeless when we can't communicate well, because us humans all want to feel good about ourselves and we see our side of things so clearly LOL.....
I suggest you two smart people go to a good counselor who can help you with the communication issue, and also help identify some things you may not want to admit w/ out a third party.....Self awareness, and ownership of our own realities, are so vital to a peaceful relationship....
Good luck and many blessing on you both....