emotional availability and unavailability

I'm thinking about this topic today more than usual because this would have been my 33rd wedding anniversary, if the marriage had not ended (by divorce, two years ago).  My ex has, it seemed, always showed more interest in communicating and sharing with and supporting women who aren't me.  You don't know me and you don't know him, so you can't tell me why this is, but I'm wondering what others whose spouses or partners have ADHD have experienced in this realm.  I don't necessarily think this is an ADHD thing.  My ex has lots of other issues that could explain this, including (maybe) that he is a man.  The only area in which he initiated things with me was sex.  Otherwise, I generally felt that he found other women more desirable than me in the ways I wanted to be desired, that is, as a friend and companion.