From what I am reading, if my ADHD spouse leaves chores undone and I pick up the slack, I'm enabling.
In reality, if the chores aren't done, then I go crazy living in a cluttered, dirty house. I need to wake up to an empty sink, clean clothes put away, toys picked up, etc, or I feel like I am behind the 8-ball before I even get dressed.
Which is the lesser of the two evils?
I'm reading Melissa's book and reading the posts here and this one has me scratching my head.