At the end of my rope

from everything. He left the business all together two months ago. And has been doing nothing but mope around and say he is going to figure out what he is going to do. Luckily I went back to work full time a few years ago. So we have my income but I dont make enough to cover all the bills plus the mortgage. I've borrowed from my 401k to pay off his business debt that we carried over. Plus 1/2 of the credit card debt. Which we have because he has no impulse control when it comes to money. He had bought a truck using one of our credit cards to pay for it. He has bought and sold 10 different motorcycles never getting out what he put into them. Plus buying vehicles for the business and then just giving them all to his partner when he left the business. He wants sex daily. I always thought there was something wrong with me because I never enjoyed it. And he would always put me down for not getting into it. But it was all about what he wanted and how he liked it. For about the past four years I've been sleeping in separate room from him. I just couldn't handle his needy sex drive or his erratic sleep habits. He's upset with me because I'm only having sex with him 2 or 3 times a week and I'm only doing that to make him feel better. I could go without and be happy. There are good sides to him and I still love him but I'm at the end of my rope. I can't get him motivated to go out and network and find a new career. I'm the one who put his resume together and applying for jobs for him. I'm so mad at the situation right now. If I could afford to leave him and not have to go into bankruptcy over the house I probably would. He tried going to the dr and went on zoloft for depression about 2 years ago. He ended up with bad GERD and insomnia that he discontinued it. He went to a psychiatrist earlier this year but the med he gave him just made Hume want to sleep all the time and it bothered his stomach too. And now that he isn't working we cant afford the 15percent we would owe for the extra dr visits to try different meds.

HI Peachy,   I feel you//My

HI Peachy,

 

I feel you//My husband also adhd and lack motivation for anything. He has work at the same job for 7 years and if im not the one on top of his work, emails, reports, ect..we would of been homeless a long time ago..he gets spurts when he is on top of things but that only last f or a minute. Yes, the meds can take awhile to get it right, but when its right it can be a bog help. Since he is not working have you looked into low or no  cost health insurance in your area? Most insurance co. have government funded programs that offer coverage some times free or at a very low cost based on your income. Look into what ia available in your state. where do you live?