Hi everyone. My husband has ADHD and it has taken a huge toll on our relationship, due to infidelity and aggression on top of all the other stuff. We have a baby girl who is crawling and I am terrified of leaving her in his care. I have found ADHD medication lying around on the carpet because he doesn't store them properly. He empties the contents of his pockets (nails, screws) in random locations without thinking about it. She has been hurt a number of times under his care because of him being forgetful and distracted. He tries to drink hot coffee while giving her a bath. One time he was distracted and her head would have gone underwater if I had not intervened.
I know I'm not supposed to parent him, and I don't want to, but I'm incredibly fearful something will happen to the baby.
He takes medication and goes to counselling. I don't believe he does any of the "homework" though because he's "too busy".
Does anyone have any advice on how to co-parent with an ADHD spouse?