How does one forgive?  I have separated from my husband and I feel confident that my decision to do so was wise.  But I realized tonight that the resentment and anger that I feel toward my husband are somewhat hindering my life.  I can't and don't want to forget that my husband did things that hurt me and that some of those actions were intended to hurt me.  But the resentment and anger also hurt me (and seem to have no effect on my husband).  Any suggestions?  Thank you.