So my wife and I are constantly fighting for numerous reasons. But we called a truce and started over last week. I've been taking meds again too
Today she says "when you win a free doughnut you can't get a coffee. " (local coffee shop contest you can win a free doughnut)
I never go to this coffee shop so my question was: "that doesn't make sense, I don't get it. Are you saying you can't buy a coffee in conjunction with winning a doughnut? Or what? Explain.
She responds "ya you can't get a coffee"
Me: "that makes no sense" you can't even buy a coffee?"
her: "don't be a fucking asshole, you didn't take your pill did you!!?" You can't take a free coffee in lieu of the free doughnut!!
now granted I may have been having a blonde moment about the coffee but I think the response was uncalled for. In frustration I walked away
Thoughts anyone how I should have handled this??
Hi Dale.....My thoughts....
Submitted by c ur self on
You did the right thing for sure, never engage that kind of disrespectful crap....It sounds like your wife needs a little soap for that mouth:) I don't think they make a pill that can help that???....I was lost also until I heard the words, in lieu of....
Hang in there!
C
I put up with situations like
Submitted by overwhelmedwife on
I put up with situations like this all the time. H will say something that isnt clear or doesn't make sense, and then he gets angry. Once I finally am told MORE, then it makes sense....but he's too angry at that point, claiming that wasn't listening.
NOW, I know why H didn't like one of his bosses who would say that he didn't understand what H was saying sometimes.
Communication
Submitted by I'm So Exhausted on
Hi Dale,
Welcome to the forum.
In the very basic view, this was a communication issue. She said something. You didn't understand her meaning.
Are you 100% sure this is actually what she said:
"don't be a f...ing asshole, you didn't take your pill did you!!?" You can't take a free coffee in lieu of the free doughnut!!
Verbatim? Exactly repeating her words?
I am the non-ADHD spouse. I have experienced saying something, and when my spouse repeats it back - it is not at all what I said. A.T. A.L.L. Sometimes I believe that who I am gets channeled through negative things he previously heard. I get very frustrated when that happens.
Sincerely,
Liz