Frustrated by another non-diagnosis

I have been reading these forums over the past few months, as I've been going through several meetings for "neuropsychological assessment", and they have been very enlightening. So, I am here to get some thoughts on what I consider to be a non-diagnosis. One of the reasons I'm frustrated is because this is my second attempt in seeking evaluation; the first was a mess because they had me meet with a child psychologist who basically told me I had "problems" but she didn't think it was adhd - this was after a very poor interview in which she didn't seem to understand anything I said (she kept paraphrasing what I said but got all the details wrong and I had to keep correcting I said, a mess). So it took me 2+ years to work up the nerve to go back to a psychologist. I can't say I "know" I have adhd like some people can. But I do know I have a lot of symptoms and issues that fall directly into that condition - especially for a female, and the inattentive type - and I can't attribute them to any other disorders or health issues. But I'm frustrated because I had the feedback session and I have a 5-page report (well, only the last 2 pages are a summary of the test results - the first 3 being a summary of my personal history and the initial interview), but I don't know what to do with it. Ultimately, the summary states that the test results suggest a "very mild" and "atypical presentation" of attention deficit, but that my profile doesn't suggest the more pervasive issues that are typical with adhd. The report also suggests I have a mood disorder and "emotional factors" which I really disagree with. I have a certain level of frustration in my life that I can trace back to specific things that distract or overwhelm me, but I am not moody or emotional in general - in fact, I have a very stable mood and most people describe me as easy going and level-headed. I'm the type of person that highly moody people are attracted to because I calm them down!

So, I'm annoyed that the result of all this testing is basically the psychologist saying I should try meditation for my attention problems and see a psychiatrist for my "mood disorder." I have seen this with family members over and over again - doctors focus on all the wrong things, like depression or anxiety or behavioral issues, rather than the single thing that runs like a current beneath all of it - namely, adhd. So they continue to suffer needlessly never getting the right treatment. And now I feel like I'm in the same boat. I do admit that my issues are relatively "very mild" compared to what they could be - compared to some of my friends and family members' "presentations." But it isn't very mild to me! It is significant and a huge hindrance in nearly every thing I do.

At this point, I'm not sure how to proceed. The psychologist plans to send this report to my primary care physician, but honestly, I don't know what she'll get out of it - I think her question will be like mine, as in what does mild and atypical mean? I could take this to a psychiatrist as they suggested (and go through another several-month-long process), but is it okay for me to take this to a psychiatrist and tell them I think it is wrong? Or, should I just skip forward to a psychiatrist and just not mention this evaluation and approach it like I'm going for evaluation for the first time?

I am writing a list of questions (and corrections to inaccurate factual info in the report) and plan on mailing it to the psychologist who wrote the report (since I can't email them). I don't plan on saying I think they are outright wrong; I just want to get some clarification and maybe a little more detail in the summary that my PC doctor could actually act upon.

Has anyone else experienced this? Should I just keep trying until I find someone who seems to have a reasonable understanding of the various shades of adhd, or should I just accept that I have "problems" and not adhd?