Gave Up

I am the non-ADHD spouse that recently gave up on my husband, who has diagnosed Adult ADHD and will not attend treatment or take medication.  His condition has not helped my own anxiety. He often creates very uncomfortable situation for me in which I am on verge of increased anger on my end, frustration, emotional isolation, you name it.

We have been on and off seperated for 8 months. My husband had a difficult time keeping jobs, negotiating with his ex-wife on their daughter, he was lazy- would DO NOTHING around the house unless I "asked him to".  Is it normal for me to experience anger and to have taken that out on him. He calls me verbally abusive but in fact I was very angry with him most of the time for not providing for family, being lazy, alcohol addictions and expecting me to take care of his daughter (my step-daughter).