My AD/ADHD husband is a musician and songwriter. After a couple of years urging him to get to play out, he finally got an opportunity to do a benefit performance at the local VA (he is a Vietnam vet who also suffers from PTSD, but that's another story....). After scrambling for hours before the performance that same evening to find everything he needed and get his gear in order, he admitted that he should never be so unprepared again and next time will be ready at least 2 days ahead of time. Over the past couple of days he's cleaned up his workroom (our second bedroom) which has crept into our living room and small office area and the hall and the dining room), fulfilling a promise he made to me some weeks ago. So far so good. He still gets very angry when he is looking for something I have moved (in a very organized fashion with everything in a specific box set aside) to get out of the way so we can have some clear space SOMEWHERE without tripping over something. "DON'T MOVE MY THINGS; JUST ASK ME TO MOVE IT!!," or "WHERE DID YOU PUT THAT??" (when it is just where HE put it). This is a familiar refrain to most wives, I'm sure, but as you all know, to the nth degree with ADD people. Last week, after one of his tirades in which he said "It shouldn't take an hour to find everything," I reminded him that if his special brand of "organization" wasn't working for him, than there has to be a change. A side issue that is somewhat related is the fact that he forgets things he's told me (or not told me as the case may be) and we argue about THAT. I'll have to admit that I DO forget things sometimes myself...I have BP disorder and that's one of the common symptoms. I'm tempted to either tape record us both, or have something written down with our initials on it to verify what is said or agreed upon!! I half jokingly suggested this one time, and he did not like it one bit.