the "gift" of ADHD: "My husband is not in denial of his diagnosis but refuses to deal with it"

Someone posted this in another thread, and it rings so true for me that I decided to make it a new topic.  

My ex would acknowledge the ADHD when doing so suited him.  Specifically, he seemed to like the "I am a victim" aspects of having a diagnosis but not the "Now you need to do something about it" aspects.