Submitted by Rainbow75chic on 04/16/2017.
My husband with ADHD. GETS VERY angry and upset if i dont obey him when he is busy. Tekls ne to shut up. Then tslks constantly. Gets mad if i answere. Tells me not to talk and turn down the tv. I get yelled at and put down. I cry. He badgers me. Why are you crying!! Whats wrong with you. Until i go so crazy i blurt out horrible things. He laughs an says what is your problem!!! Arrrrg
Just do what you would tell someone else that wrote this....
Submitted by c ur self on
There isn't a lot we can do when we find ourselves in the position you and many of us are in, or have been in....We can get us a divorce and move away from what we feel is the problem...Or, we can set boundaries for ourselves so that we don't engage this person, knowing what their behavior will be before we do...
I was just reading a post by a lady who has done just that....She said her husband isn't someone she can trust (lies) so she don't..I have had to put many boundaries on myself, not that I like them, but, they force accountability...If there are certain time or certain circumstances where our spouse is about guaranteed to take on abusive or dysfunctional and selfish behaviors then you don't keep allowing yourself to engage them in those areas...No matter what they are...Or like I done way to many times...Just kick myself when the crap happens....
I think you need to look away from his behavior (sounds like it pretty fixed) and ask yourself some hard questions...
Is there any thing I can do to elevate putting myself in a position to not be talked to or treated like he talks to me and treats me?? It's always our responsibility to live a healthy lifestyle...It's never our spouses....
That's just my suggestion...It's up to you...There is very good change he want wake in the morning changed w/ regret for every time he hurt you!...Take care of yourself Rainbow75chic....
C
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Submitted by MelissaOrlov on
You're putting up with this...why? ADHD is not an excuse to be a jerk! This is neither a safe environment for you, nor a healthy one. I am not saying 'leave' but I am saying that you shouldn't put up with it as 'okay.' Bring it to his attention that as his wife you deserve to be treated at least as respectfully as he would treat anyone else. At the moment he's not treating you as well as he would treat a stranger!