Well, I'm giving up!  Let me explain...my husband has severe ADHD.  I work 4 10 hr shifts a week and was also the full time organizer at home.  I would work a 10 hr day and come home to a 4 hr mess each night.  No matter how much I talked, told, and tried, the mess is never resolved.  I trip over the same pair of sneakers at least twice a day, I pick up the same wet towels from the shower each day that are thrown all over the floor, close the cupboard doors that are left open, and make sure all the burners are off after cooking.  Anyways, that is just a small sample.  I really can't do it anymore, the actually clutter is adding so much distress, and arguing, to the marriage.  I really can;t see myself living in such filth the rest of my life.  Ladies, he even yes, sneezes on the same area of the wall and emmm, gets his ...all over it!  I mean gross!  I yell at him, try to make him feel guilty, everything, and nothing works.  I do realize that most of these things, forgetfulness, and inabllity to organize are all because he has severe ADHD.  He says that I have to realize that he tries to clean but it takes so much mental effort to be able to do it.  Anyways, so to get to the point, I'm fed up with fighting with someone to do something they are unable to do, and I am so busy I am unable to do.  So solution, I'm hiring a personal organizer to come into our home and help my ADHD proof it, declutter, and organize!!! Then 1x a week I'm having a maid come in.  Ladies, were worth it, why fight it, join in with me and just give up! ;)  I'll let you know if it works?!