Glad I found this site. I am not alone....

WOW!!!  I feel like I want to cry in pure joy I have found this sight!  I had no idea there were others who experience what I have being married to someone with ADD.    We have been married almost 2 yrs but dated for 3yrs.  We had soooo much fun together dating and did so much laughing.  We did not live together before we were married due to religious reasons.   Since we have been married, there have been several times where I honestly thought I was done.  DONE!  Anytime I call for his attention when he is doing something, he sighs in frustration and rolls his eyes.  He will not help around the house unless asked and when it gets to the point I need to ask for help, it becomes a war zone.   He says things that I am nagging all the time; I am rude, disrespectful, etc.  He will not go ANYWHERE without his cell phone and will text, and Google while driving which scares me so bad.  If I politely ask him to please not do that while driving he will tell me to quite bitching and keep doing it. 
The stress this caused me a few months ago triggered a nervous breakdown.  I was depressed, unhappy, I wanted to divorce him, and felt so alone and lost.   My doctor put me on Pristiq to help me.   Now my husband says things when he is “mad” at me like I am psycho, crazy, and mental and what hurts most is he will say “you haven’t taken you meds, I can tell.”  All because after 4 days of tripping over his 5 pairs of shoes by the front door, I asked him nicely if he can please put them away.  
Don’t get me wrong, I love him dearly.  We do have some great fun times and he is VERY loving when the computer, Fox News or his cell phone are not on.  Some days I feel like such a burden to him.  Everyday he rolls his eyes at me about something and it has gotten to the point I feel so alone in this marriage.   We both work fulltime but I work more hours.  I am tired too when I get home from work.  I honestly don’t know how to approach him anymore.  I am sad and heart broken.  I miss the fun guy I fell in love with.  But after reading some of these blogs, I am not alone.

You def are not alone

I've been married for seven months and dated my wife for three years. I knew all the problems that might come up when you marry into ADHD but when you love someone you don't let that bother you. For the last month I have been doing everything. I get home from working ten hours to find her sleeping or hyperfocused on her computer or cell phone. Guess that means I'll make dinner. She doesn't bother eating dinner cause she ate something late in the afternoon even though we plan on dinner to keep on schedule to have time for ourselves. Since I cooked and ate it, I guess I have to clean up because if I don't the dishes will stay there all night. After all that I have to make sure she took her proper medication but considering that she is not eating nor talking I assume that she took too much of her adderall - which is great considering that there is shortage of that now. Once that is all done I check the mail, make sure the bills are paid, maybe read something for myself but usually i just have to listen to her rant (when she is off the meds) about how someone insulted her at work. I listen accordingly but i know that it is just blown out of proportion. Then I get to hear her complain that i go to bed too early. 

 

I know, I know...talk more and come up with a schedule. We do all that but there is always an excuse about something inside two weeks. A day when she needs to be by herself or not talk to anyone. Like the time she said never came to my cousin's house for Christmas and I had to take a cab home. 

Sorry for rant. I just can't believe she wants a dog now. Poor thing wouldn't get walked until 9PM everyday.