A good sign

We are taking the course offered rejoice the site right now and are currently packing for an 8 day trip to Florida. This evening hubby and I were talking about what to pack and all that, and he mentioned that he didn't want to take his mess for the week. I told him that I really need him to take his meds. I told him that if he can't take his meds, I'll have a hard time. I also expressed to him that dealin with his ADHD symptoms includes taking his medication too. We compromised and he is going to take his Adderall at noon and so it will wear off by the time the kids go to bed, instead of taking it first thing in the morning and then again to make it though the evening. I basically expressed to him that is equally important for him to take his meds for work as it is for his home life. He said okay. In the past, I've been irritated about him not wanting to take his meds when he's not working and at the time the level of respect in our marriage was at an all time low but now were working on it and I think he now understands how important it is for him to be treated properly. Hopefully he'll stick to it!

carathrace's picture

victory

So glad he heard you.  Thanks for sharing your victory.  It's these little victories we have to notice, pay attention to, appreciate -- to help us get through the OTHER stuff!

Interesting.

While we were on our trip he informed me when we got back that he didn't take any meds the whole week and if I noticed. I told him I noticed a couple of things but not really. He really tried hard to be helpful and listen and the only thing that stressed me out about the trip was being with his family for a whole week. Oy. I was surprised, actually. A little upset but mostly just impressed. Just goes to show meds isn't the whole solution. We've since worked on our routine with the kids(I hate routine) and communication and discipline with the kids. I've done some reflection, and realized just how little I discipline and follow through with my kids. Most of DH's frustration and additude with us has been because the kids don't listen to him. They didn't listen great to me either. We bought this great parenting book, worked on our daytime routine and have allowed DH 30 minutes to unwind before jumping into the nighttime routine and that has helped him tremendously. He always told me that being on his meds makes him feel less patience and more likely to get upset and frustrated with the kids so he couldn't understand why I wanted him to take them on the trip. Anyway. Lots of progress. Now we're working on the fact that he has no filter. Gets him into trouble sometimes!