H is working 2nd shift. He usually gets home at 11PM but last night worked OT and didn't come home until 1AM. He comes home and takes a shower in our master bath, you know at 1AM while I'm trying to sleep right outside that door! He does it because I wake up every time he comes home so he assumes it's ok to shower there rather than in the other bathroom! Then he goes into the computer room. I acn hear him playing his damn video game anytime I wake up! I get up at 5:30 and he still has not come to bed. I get up and he's all chipper and says "Oh I'll make us some breakfast. He does that and tells me "I've been tired since midnight". I said "Then why didn't you come to bed right when you came home?" He goes "Cause I'm a dork." I don't understand that! He's tired but yet stays up until 6AM playing his video game and then goes to bed as I'm about to leave for work! He doesn't have to be to work until 2PM, but I highly doubt he'll go in. His sleep will be interrupted by outside activity. He did this a year or so ago too. Just stayed up all night for no reason but still went to work at 5AM.
What is it that makes them make these poor decisions for no reason?
This is why my H does this....
Submitted by overwhelmedwife on
Before my H retired, if he ever had to work late, he'd stay up for HOURS and HOURS.....because he felt "cheated" that he didn't get to do what he wanted during the evening. So, he'd stay up so he'd get to do what he wanted.
What I want to do is unplug
Submitted by Mapper (not verified) on
What I want to do is unplug that damn computer! He comes home at 11PM, takes a shower, and then spends the next 3-4 hours playing his game while I'm trying to sleep. Then in the morning, after I'm at work, he probably gets up around 9:30 or so and then spends the next couple of hours playing his game before he goes to work. All his energy and time is focused on that DAMN game! It sure would have been nice if last night, seeing as how it was Friday, if he could have come home and come to bed with me right away as it was cold and it would have been nice to snuggle up to him. But no. He comes home and showers and then tells me he's going to have a beer, dink around on his computer for a little bit and then he'd be in. Well I knew that meant nothing. He goes and sits down at his computer a little after 11. I wake up at 2:30 and get up and he's still on it. Actually he ws just going to make himself another drink and get a snack. No plans on coming to bed. I go back to bed and read and then fall asleep. About 3:30 he comes in. I'm sure he'll be in bed until 11AM or so this morning.
We certainly don't have sex anymore. I'm in bed when he comes home and on the weekends he stays up late rather than come to bed with me and, when he does finally come to bed, he's asleep in 30 seconds. Then in the morning I'm up by 8AM whereas he sleeps until 10 or so. He knows I'm upset with him being on 2nd shift but he tells me "Oh it will be fine. We'll have the weekends together." Yeah, I get about 3 hours each Sat/Sun with you and the rest is devoted to your damn game and your buddy who you play online with!