His perception is inaccurate and he accuses me of feeling ways I don't

This is my first post. I'm hopeful to feel support by reaching out like this. 

When my ADHD husband and I communicate, he often inaccurately hears what I say. His perception is so off sometimes. Is that a frontal love communication issue?  He insists he is right, insists I did say it, and even accuses me of feeling ways I don't feel. He won't open his mind to hearing MY truth. Communicating with him is always frustrating. If I say "I don't feel that way", sometimes he'll say "Yes you do" and keep repeating it over and over several times. My anger just escalates. Then he usually just walks out and doesn't speak to me except for cordial "hi" and "bye" and that can go on for days. I feel he uses me as an excuse to stop communicating and is glad he gets to leave and not have to "talk" or communicate. He exhibits a LOT of avoidance. I am left with anger and frustration, no closure. Sometimes I feel communicating is futile because there's another condition operating such as Auditory Processing Disorder. Can anyone relate and what we we do for our marriage if we can't even communicate and he can't even hear, understand and know my feelings?