HELP

I am new to this site and so far I love it, I am right now married almost 10years to a husband that has ADHD even though he was never diagnosed with it as a child and I think that is why we have the problems we do, and an 8 year old daughter who was diagnosed with ADHD.

I don't even know where to start, I am currenlty going on Monday to see a divorce attorney because I can not take it any more, My husband is the moodiest man alive and I think he just likes the fact the he can say that he is married and has a house and daughter I do not actually believe he like it at all, he comes and goes all the time and rarely spends time with me or his daughter, he is very very negative about everything not I positive thing comes out of his mouth. 

We will start financially, this is a joke and I could cry just writing this but he has wiped out our check book more than once and has stolen my charge cards and put me in around 30, 000.00 in debt.  You can not leave any money around the house because he will steal it. Let's just say I walk around with my purse everywhere in the house.

We will next step to sexually, He has cheated on me and I let it slide he constantly wants to have sex and if not he will please him self I think he is addicted to it because it is more than once a day, I can not have sex with someone who is a liar and stealer and cheat.

His anger is awful he will scream and fight with me over everything in front of our 8 year old and she wil tell me MOMMY LETS JUST LEAVE AND GET OUT OF HERE.

He ruins Holidays because I don't think he wants to be around me and my family meanwhile he craves so much attention from me

THere is so much I don't even know how much longer I should go on but I am at my wits end and need to hear others opinion

 

Needs Help

You sound as if you are in a very bad position and already have a plan in place re: talking with a lawyer.  Hang in there and be strong.  As you describe it, it doesn't sound as if there is much there to salvage.  People here at this site will give you whatever emotional support they can over the internet, I'm sure.

As an FYI, many with ADHD also suffer from other issues as well (defiance disorders, addictions (including sex) and other issues).  The behavior you describe may not be just ADHD, but may include other issues.  That will ultimately be your husband's responsibility to work through, though, not yours.  I tell you this just so that you (and other readers here) don't equate straight ADHD with what you are describing. (Note, I'm not a doctor, and I don't know your husband, so i could be wrong, but it doesn't fit the typical ADHD mold.)