Help! Am I being Emotionally/psychologically abused???

I am not quite sure, but I am wondering if my non ADHD husband has become slowly but surely more and more emotionally & psychologically abusive with me over the years. Although I understand we can all be prone to behaving abusively at times......I am starting to realize there has been a enduring pattern develop ......I am really confused about this because the main focus of all our relationship and life problems are my ADHD in his eyes..and because I have felt so bad about this I have taken this on, but nothing I do seems to make him happy.....I can describe in more detail but I just wanted to check if anybody else has experienced or wondered about this in their relationship.