Help Getting Past Denial

My husband was diagnosed with ADHD 4 years ago and has yet to get past the denial stage. I could list all of the reasons I should not be with him anymore but in the end it doesn't matter.  All that matters is that I love him and want him to be happy and healthy.

He has started and stopped Aderall 4 or 5 times now and never sticks more thank a week or 2.  He kept a journal for about 3 days for symptom tracking.  We did Melissa's counselling and he has tried counselling on his own.  Nothing lasts more than a week or 2.

He is depressed, angry and shut down and I just can't reach him.  I hate seeing him like this knowing there are so many treatment options out there to help him.

How do I help him, how do I wake him up??