Forum topic: Hi, Everyone

Sun Jul 19th, 2015 - 1:42pm by RebeccaLynne

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Anger, Frustration & ADHD

Hi, everyone, my name is Rebecca and I believe my spouse may have ADD or ADHD.  After being married for five years (not a first marriage for either of us) I am completely at a loss to understand some of his behavior.  I feel like a tornado touches down sometimes with no warning at all.  I am exhausted and hope, by reading some of the information here, to learn some types of skills that I can use to cope with this situation.  I don't want to leave him but honestly, I can't see living another 20-30 years this way.

Any advice is appreciated.  I am going to do some reading and see what I can learn.  Thank you for your support.

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Submitted by Dipity on Sun Jul 19th, 2015 - 2:43pm

I'm still pretty new to this myself. Hubby is the adhder in our house, and I am the non. Initially for us getting a diagnosis was tough (we are in the UK and getting a doctor to listen is hard and took a few attempts) hubby qnd I had split up and the instant we started looking into adult adhd things did start to improve. I realised I was at rock bottom and needed to fix me and my own self worth and past problems. The time working on me has been 100% well spent. The resources here are amazing and I've whiled away many an hour looking at things. I sometimes find the anger and frustrated forum heavy going at times, but I do gravitate there when things are tough here, and find it helps to read other people are going through it too. We did take the couples counselling course that Melissa wrote, and have also both read the two of Melissas books and also.driven to distraction by ned halliwell. all three have been so useful in their ideas and things to put into practice on both people's part. We have revisited the counselling sessions when things have gotten a bit chaotic. I'm trying to be more proactive on here but so often get lost just reading! Good luck in your journey, hang on in there it's a bumpy ride, that can be as rewarding as it is exhausting!

Submitted by overwhelmedwife on Tue Jul 21st, 2015 - 12:02am

If I wasn't financially tied to my H, I would have left a long time ago.

 

I would not go thru any of this willingly.  I have little to no respect for my H.  He's self-centered, too easily angered, unstable, etc.

 

I can't entertain or even make plans that include him because likely the plans would fall thru or H would behave badly.

 

If I were you, I'd get out.