Hi All,
My husband has ADHD, I'm sure of it, but he won't get diagnosed. I have been doing hours of research on how to deal with this/him, and have learned a lot about myself, and my reactions while doing so
My question is how do I react or not react when he is going a mile a minuet on the phone telling me about his day or when he comes home from work and he is hyper. Lately I just have been letting him talk and finish before I start saying something, and when he comes home I try and let him un wind, but sometimes he is still hyper, while we are watching tv. He will start talking to the show, or playing with the dogs. I just calmly say sorry I'm trying to listen to the show, and he normally just says sorry.
Also I would like for him to put his comics away and tie up the boxes in the garage. I have asked him twice now to put his comics away, and even got him comic boxes, bu they are still pilled up in the family room. Any suggestions.
Thanks,
What comes natural for hyper minds....
Submitted by c ur self on
It's difficult to not attempt to think for, or manage a spouse when you live together in the same space, and you don't like their way of living...But the things that you have to forfeit to do that isn't worth it...When we don't view each other with love and respect (no matter our mind types) we start gradually moving apart...Nurture all the wonderful and beautiful things, and accept your difference's as best you can...If I focused on her messiness, I would have to leave...Her half the bedroom is a wreck, mine is organized...It's a symbol of our difference's....
Wishing you peace!
c
Yes
Submitted by kosty on
Yes, with all the research and learning I'm doing, I'm learning that, that is just him when he comes home from work, and I will just learn to respect it, and just keep reminding myself its his ADHD, and it is a symbol of our differences.
Peace has come.