I see lots of comments from persons with ADHD in this forum about how in order for real change to take place, the person with ADHD needs support from his/her partner/spouse. That criticism, judgment, and even just waiting silently will contribute to the person with ADHD's feeling like a TOTAL FAILURE.
My question for those with ADHD - what does support look like to you? What are some specific things I can do to show support to my wife. When I ask her, she says "less criticizing and controlling. More compliments."
That sounds good, but when I give her compliments, she immediately dismisses them.
So, I'm looking for other suggestions.