How do you cope?

I feel as though my life falls apart everytime my partner is home. Is it fair to say that all i wanted was a normal home? One that consisted of not yelling, breaking things and showing your children that you can be a happy family. Everything seems to be my fault and even when he gets agressive he can become very violent. But again if i were to say exactly what happened he denies it even happened that way, just says that it was my fault i slipped and he never done this. How do you cope? Who listens to you when he has said some really hurtful things and you are suppose to just "get over it, it is in the past now" when it only happened 5 minutes ago. Who looks after you when other people think that the ADDer can just get over it, and that im stupid for allowing someone like him to treat me that way. We went together to his phyciatrist appointment and i found the doctor to be very unhelpful i was asking questions while he was playing on his phone. But he is the only doctor we can see as others are fully booked out for ages. How do you make relationships work? Is it worth all the hurt in the world when he constantly goes back on his word over and over again?

We listen to you. I've been

We listen to you. I've been where you are more times than I care to remember. ADHD has to be one of the hardest things to live with. For every step forward, you feel like you fall back 10. There aren't too many people who understand. How could they? My husband and I have a very good counselor, but if it weren't for this site to get me through from one appointment to the next I don't know what I would do. They live in the here and the now. So when they say mean things, they don't understand why you are still mad the next day. You doubt yourself, should I just forgive and forget? Am I the small one who can't let things go? Everyone here feels your pain. It's a safe place to be heard.

Thanks waterfall, i do find

Thanks waterfall, i do find this site very helpful the only place that i can be actually heard and not feel so alone. And yes totally agree for every step forward theres another 10 steps, which makes it even more frustrating to me. I have always been a truthful person to him but even though i speak it does not mean that he believes it. I think at times he thinks im playing mind games when i am just saying the facts as they are. I do at times feel so alone due to the fact that people dont understand add and just think that he should just go get brain surgery to fix it? some people are just not educated on the condition. It would be very frustrating for the ADDer but im trying to find my peace with his add but many times i always feel as though im failing. This rollercoaster of good days bad days make me feel like im constantly walking on egg shells.