how do you tell your ADHD spouse that you cant take it anymore?

the anger, frustration, resentment, exhaustion, anxiety is growing in me

i have to tell my husband how i feel and how the adhd affects me and the marriage

but he is short tempered, overly emotional, and always flip it to make it about me

also, it's so sad and i dont want to hurt him but i just cant take it anymore

i cant see myself being married like this forever

i love him, i love him deeply... but that isnt enough

my needs in this marriage are not being met

i am growing more and more anxious and angry by the day

any suggestions on how to speak to your spouse about this?