How many of you have spouses that are being treated?

So, there are a lot of posts in this area from a lot of really frustrated people (including me). 

It's been only a couple of months since I realized it was probably ADHD that was causing most of our problems.  Husband agreed to get evaluated, which he did, and he does have ADHD, and was referred to a psychiatrist for meds and/or counseling.  The psych appointment is not for another month.  Then of course there will be an adjustment period to meds and a learning period from counseling.  So it will be awhile before we can expect any results.   But, my husband is cooperative even though he doesn't fully comprehend how much of a problem this is for our relationship.

Knowing that there is hope for the future is my lifeline.    If my husband were refusing treatment I would be divorcing him.  For now, I'm still frustrated with everything but I'm trying to be more understanding and I'm hanging in there in hopes of a better future.  I was ECSTATIC when I figured out the problem was ADHD, because there's treatment for that!  (It's hard to treat inherent ass-holiness)

My question:  Of those of you who are having serious problems with an ADHD spouse, how many of them are in treatment?  Are any of your spouses doing all they can with meds and counseling and it's still bad?  Or is it mostly the untreated ones that are the most problematic?

My husband has been using

My husband has been using medications for depression and anxiety for approximately 15 years, I think.   He has been treated for ADHD for just the past two or three years.  He has seen therapists off and on.  The latest therapist seems to be helping a bit more, but I have to say that things are still rough.  In my husband's situation, it seems like a race against time:  he's spending more time on meds and in therapy, but he's older and dealing with memory issues that might be unrelated to ADHD and he's also made some life decisions that I don't think are helping with his mental-health problems.  

My husband gets worse the more meds he gets

My husband was first diagnosed with depression, then ADD. Depression meds are easy to get, ADD meds not so much. County mental health services won't provide them where we lived. I had to work 2 jobs to pay for a private psychiatrist to prescribe them. Then he got a job and things got better. When he lost that job he went into a downward spiral that I couldn't help him pull out of. More meds seemed to make him more depressed. Doctor prescribed testosterone, but only for 3 months. (don't know why). Now he takes like 10 pills a day and is just a zombie. Doctor not interested in my input. Finally decided I couldn't deal with it any more and I'm gone.